Too much of anything can be stressful, even positive things like spending quality time with your loved one. You’re going to need some separation from them at times. That doesn’t mean you should call it quits or even take a break. It simply indicates that you require some alone time or time with your closest pals without your person hovering over your shoulder. Here are some concrete signals that you need some alone time with your partner:
- 1 You’ve spent every waking moment with each other.
- 2 You’re getting upset by the tiny things they do, things you know aren’t a huge issue.
- 3 You have the impression that you are always doing what they want you to do.
- 4 You’ve lost track of what you actually desire.
- 5 You’ve been longing for apart from them.
You’ve spent every waking moment with each other.
You don’t want someone else to take over your life. Even if you’re happiest when they’re present, doing everything together is unhealthy. Even if you’re in a serious relationship, you should maintain your uniqueness. You don’t want to feel as if your identity is bound to this other person since, as much as they mean to you, you can exist without them. You can have a good time without them. You can survive in the absence of them. It’s dangerous to lose sight of this.
You’re getting upset by the tiny things they do, things you know aren’t a huge issue.
When you spend an inordinate amount of time with someone, everything they do can grate on your nerves. If there are no major issues in the relationship, this is not a hint that you should end it. It’s more likely an indication that you require additional space. Allow yourselves to miss each other, even if only for a few hours or days. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, so it’s no surprise that they’re getting on your nerves when you’re constantly joined at the hip.
You have the impression that you are always doing what they want you to do.
Or perhaps you’re making reasonable adjustments but still aren’t receiving what you most selfishly desire. Although it’s wonderful that you can meet them halfway, you also deserve what you desire. If you never get around to seeing the movies you want to see or seeing the restaurants you want to visit, go out on your own for a change. Make a date for yourself. Alternatively, split up for the day and spend time with your pals while they spend time with theirs. Even though your social circles overlap, you don’t have to be together all the time.
You’ve lost track of what you actually desire.
If you’re having difficulty defining what you want since you’re used to thinking about what the two of you want as a team, you probably need some distance. Although it is healthy to examine your person’s opinions and feelings, you do not want their thoughts to become your thoughts. You don’t want to agree with everything they say just because it’s the easiest thing to do. You have a mind of your own. You have a heart of your own. Even if it feels like you’re an extension of each other at times, you’re not the same person.
You’ve been longing for apart from them.
You are not a bad partner because you want your privacy. You are not callous for needing some alone time. Stop pretending that you’re fine with your routines being so intertwined because you’re not. Your relationship will have greater potential if you are honest with each other and admit how you truly feel. If you never admit that you need space, you will come to detest them and end up pushing them away forever. So it’s best to be honest now, while you can still solve the problem.